There's been a lot of press recently about the fat positive & health at any size movements, & the backlash that goes along with such things. I've avoided as much of it as possible, because it just makes me a wee bit angsty, to be honest. Then, by sheer coincidence, I started reading Dawn French's memoir, Dear Fatty. And a mere 22 pages in there was this:
"That's the key, you know, confidence. I know for a fact that if you can genuinely like your body, so can others. It doesn't really matter if it's short, tall, fat or thin, it just matters that you can find some things to like about it. Even if that means having a good laugh at the bits of it that wobble independently, occasionally, that's all right. It might take you a while to believe me on this one, lots of people don't because they seem to suffer from a self-hatred that precludes them from imagining that a big woman could ever love herself because they don't. But I do. I know what I've got is a bit strange and difficult to love but those are the very aspects I love the most! It's a bit like people. I've never been particularly attracted to the uniform of conventional beauty. I'm always a bit suspicious of people who feel compelled to conform. I personally like the adventure of difference. And what's beauty, anyway?"
Amazing. I had this crazy surge of emotions. I wanted to cheer, to laugh, & damn near burst into tears. I had to put the book down without reading further so I could digest that gem of a paragraph. And that, folks, is why Dawn French is my Wilder Woman of the Week.
It occurred to me that my Mother's Day Wish List was all about what I wanted, & not what I wanted for my Mama. Selfish much? So this Wilder Woman of the Week is my Mama, Nancy.
Proud Granny meeting Kowhai
Here's my wish list for my Mama:
A beautiful bunch of flowers
Some pretty hankies
And finally, because I inherited my passion for dance from my Mama, I would have taken her to see First Position.
~ I saw a Georgia O'Keeffe painting when I did a tour of the White House. It was a highlight of the tour.
~ I often think if I returned to study Art History I would write a thesis on Artists & their estates, using Georgia O'Keeffe, Pablo Picasso & Jackson Pollock. Georgia O'Keeffe left her estate to her assistant. Her Will had many codicils, & was contested by her family.
~ Georgia O'Keeffe reminds me of one of my favourite moments as an Art History student. In my experience Art History students are painfully taciturn in tutorials. I'm pretty sure I passed a paper or two based on my willingness to contribute in a tutorial. In this particular tutorial myself and a girl named Hannah were the only students to regularly participate. Towards the end of the session on Georgia O'Keeffe Hannah blurted out "But they do look like Vaginas!" Best moment ever. I wanted to applaud her.